Over the past year it seems that more and more celebrities are being exposed for the love rats they are. Ashley Cole, Ronan Keating, Tiger Woods, and even butter-wouldn’t-melt Mark Owen.
But it hasn’t only been this year when celebs have strayed from their partners. Everyone remembers the David Beckham cheating scandal. He cheated on his wife Victoria with their nanny at the time Rebecca Loos. It was a huge front page story that ran for quite a while and also gave Rebecca Loos a boost on the social ladder as she has appeared on TV many times since then.
Who could forget Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie? Allegedly Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were still together when his affair with Angelina Jolie began on the set of their film ‘Mr & Mrs Smith.’
Why do people cheat on their partners? Is it for the thrill of having a dark secret and the risk of getting caught? That seemed to be the case for Tiger Woods. He kept his affairs under wraps and made sure he wouldn’t get caught but I think that was all part of the thrill for him.
The world wide web really is a strange place. You can find out anything on it even how to cheat on your partner. On the website allexperts.com a woman describes that she and a man she nicknames ‘Barry’ have admitted that they have fantasised about each other for the past six months. They are both married and she has asked how to keep their looming affair a secret.
The “expert” replies with suggestions for her. The expert tells her that she needs an alibi for several reasons. She needs it to explain why she is refreshed and excited when she comes home. She needs a concrete schedule so she doesn’t raise suspicions. Finally, she needs an alibi because when she is caught it will give her partner something to hate. He’ll hate the alibi more than he’ll hate her because if she’d never gone it wouldn’t have happened supposedly.
The expert says that anything she can explain in advance is one less thing to look suspicious. The expert recommends a gym membership. This will account for why she’s refreshed and excited, why she needs a shower when she comes in, and why she can’t answer her phone.
She suggests using a hotel or a cheap apartment and changing locations frequently.
It’s not surprising that this is on the net. Women seem to know what they want and need these days and that’s a good thing but I don’t think cheating is the way to go about it. But you gotta admit the “experts” advice was pretty good.
Now, on the flipside, how do you out a cheating spouse? hub pages.com lists 10 ways to find out if your partner may be cheating on you.
1. Your gut instinct says so. Gut instincts are very reliable. They’re one of the strongest feelings we have and more often than not we should listen to them.
2. There are significant changes in your partners attitude towards you. Partners may start buying you more gifts and being nicer as a way to eliminate the guilt they feel. They might also stop doing normal things like calling you and cancelling plans.
3. Your partner is spending more money than usual and you don’t know on what. Cheaters spend money on hotels and gifts and secret meetings for their affairs so this is a strong sign that something’s up.
4. There is a breakdown in communication. Your partner doesn’t answer questions about their day properly and they give short replies so as not to let anything slip.
5. Mutual friends stop seeing you as often or start acting strange when talking to you. Usually other people will find out about the affair before you do. So be wary of friends and their behaviour and ask them why they’re being weird.
6. Your partner is spending a lot of time with one specific person. This may be an obvious one but if your partner starts getting calls, texts and emails from just one person then there may be more to it than meets the eye.
7. Your significant other is more interested in their appearance than usual. People in long term relationships get used to each other so grooming and hygiene can slip a little. But if they suddenly start paying attention to how they look, well maybe you should start paying attention to why they suddenly care how they’re looking.
8. Your sex life is different. There may be more sex or less sex, your partner may want to try out new things or they could seem distant. This may be nothing but it’s wise to take it into account.
9. Travel or reasons to be out of the home increase. The most stereotypical sign. Late nights at work and “business trips” are a tell tale sign that an affair is probably on the cards.
10. Your partner is avoiding you. Your partner isn’t there much, they don’t talk to you any more, they’re constantly busy and they leave for work before you get up.
Take these ten signs of cheating, apply them to your relationship and find out what’s going on. It could save your relationship or it could release you from it and you could be better for it like Cheryl Cole. What has this column shown us today? That cheating is on the rise. So people be wary, no one is safe. Remember the old saying, and it’s one that has proven itself time and time again as shown by Ashley Cole: ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater.’
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